but what about tea?

I've wondered long and hard about the question; do you have to like tea and cakes to be lolita?

well you don't have to, if you prefer teas stronger counterpart coffee thats fine to or just a class of water even. Its not a must but certainly considered more lolita if you do. perhaps your watching your figure or just cant take the sweetness of cake, well thats fine too, there are other alternatives, surly there is some sort of sandwich you can eat.

my point is that there is always an alternative you can seek out that is almost or just as good. you dont have to stick to the norms to be lolita, lolita is about being out there and comfortable with your style.